National Journal’s Ron Fournier wrote about his experiences as the parent of a son with Aspberger’s last year in this piece, which had people coming out of the woodwork to tell him what a wonderful piece he had written. Fournier even tried getting the hashtag “#lovethatboy ” up and running on Twitter. When Fournier was trying to connect with his son, he did what all fathers do: Take them to visit two former Presidents of the United States!
That piece has now led to a book deal, according to Politico’s Mike Allen, who wrote in Monday morning’s Playbook that the book will be called. “A Father’s Journey to Understanding My Son And What is Fair to Expect of Our Kids.” Allen explains that the book “grows out of Ron’s National Journal cover story about his struggle to connect with his mildly autistic son. It will use this story of father-son bonding to explore what it means to accept our kids on their own terms, rather than trying to push them to fit societal norms and expectations.”
Sorry, did anyone bother reading Fournier’s piece? To me, it reads like a what NOT to do with your children.
By his own admission, Fournier refused to let his kid be a kid. He forced him to play sports when his son didn’t want to. He created unrealistic visions of what his son would become. Fournier wrote that after a basketball game that his son was clearly not interested in, he told his dad, “I was afraid you wouldn’t like me as much if I stopped playing sports.” I can’t wait to read the wonderful parenting advice from THAT guy.
To Fournier’s credit, he has admitted his past shortcomings as a father and is embracing his child for who he is, eccentricities and all. But, a book on parenting?
Parenting is really hard. Having been a parent for eight years now, I can tell you that I’m a horrible father. My mentality is that you will probably fuck your kids up somehow. The key is create more good memories than bad. Point is, we should be rewarding the people who are GOOD at parenting. People who understanding that parenting isn’t about controlling your children or treating them like toys. That dad that yells at his kid for being too slow on the soccer field? Yeah, don’t be that guy. The dad that patiently waits for his kid to find a hobby that he truly enjoys and then nurtures that hobby? Let’s give him a book.