Keeping Your Work Friends After A Layoff: If All Else Fails, Make New Friends

First of all, are they really your friends or just someone you chat with because they’re in your vicinity?

Assuming the former, it is hard to keep in touch when one of your lives suddenly changes. It’s like moving. Suddenly, despite your best intentions, you see your old friends a lot less.

“This is going to be a very dramatic test,” Jan Yager, a sociologist who is an expert on work and relationships, told

Some practical advice, whether you’re the survivor or the laid-off one:

Survivors: Don’t complain about what a bad day you had at work. (It’s laughable to us that this even has to be mentioned, but our society is pretty clueless.)

Layoff victims: Don’t complain too much. Yeah, you have to let it out, but nobody likes a whiner.

Survivors: Don’t feel guilty that you still have a job. It probably wasn’t your fault.

Layoff victims: Don’t make the survivor feel guilty that s/he still has a job and you don’t. It probably wasn’t their fault.

Both: If all else fails, make new friends. (Thanks,, for your empathy.)