Have you ever spent ten minutes searching for your car keys, only to find them appear just as you’ve thrown your hands up and said “Screw it, I’ll walk”? Sure that happens every now and then, but people do tend to find their car keys while looking for them.
Yet master resume writer Jacqui Barrett-Poindexter says that “you might actually land a job” when you stop looking for one, so, yeah, just quit your job search.
Should you “[p]lay hard-to-get by being nonchalant about job offers that do come your way”? This, Barrett-Poindexter says, will make you “be seen as a challenge, and the competition to hire you will heat up.”
No, no, no. Nonchalant is bad in today’s market. Overly attached, clingy, and needy is also bad, but there’s middle ground. If you need a job, present yourself as excited and passionate and energeticnot hard to get.
Oh, and Barrett-Poindexter also says that in times of real stress, just stop job-searching altogether. “The perspectives you gain during this time will more than make up for any perceived time loss.”
Agreed…if you’re talking about a couple hours. Maybe even a day, if you’re having a really wretched time and need a mental health break. In fact, we support the general idea of approaching the job search from a place of calm, a place of positivity, etc.–not a mental state of stress and negativity. That stress will spill over into the way you present yourself to employers, so coming from a good, happy place is good. But that doesn’t mean just to quit when it gets rough.
Job searching is a job, as anyone who’s done it for an extended period of time knows. Without discipline and putting in regular hours, you’re less likely to achieve the result you want–a job. Yes, people get called out of the blue by headhunters, and sometimes the perfect job falls into your lap, but The Secret isn’t real and you’ll better your odds by sticking with it. A job search is not like looking for your car keys.
Finally, Barrett-Poindexter also lists a bunch of tips about quitting your job search by using social media, volunteering, and going on job interviews. Funny, those things sound a heck of a lot like….job-searching. So maybe you don’t want to quit your job search after all.