Director of global policy management Monika Bickert said that while certain actions, such as cutting off birthday reminders, go without saying, Facebook often runs into dilemmas such as:
- What to do when there are disagreements over what should happen to the account, offering as an example one parent of a deceased daughter wanting to delete the account while the other wants to preserve it as a memorial. Bickert asks, “How do we know what the daughter would have wanted?”
- What to do if those parents want to see private messages between that daughter and her friends, while the friends want those messages to remain private.
- What to do when a bereaved spouse asks to be added as a friend to her late husband’s profile, with Bickert asking, “How do we know if that’s what her husband would have wanted? Is there a reason they were not previously Facebook friends?”
Bickert pointed out that the social network still doesn’t have all of the answers on how to proceed, noting that laws on the topic in many countries do not cover digital assets such as social media accounts and email addresses.
She said Facebook’s standard process is to memorialize the accounts of deceased users, adding “Remembering” above their names and leaving all privacy settings unchanged, but barring anyone from logging into those accounts.
She admitted that the social network is still learning, writing, “Despite our efforts to respect the wishes of those who pass away and those who survive them, we still encounter difficult situations where we end up disappointing people.”